Here we go again...

I am sure you are all sick to hear about the same ol',same ol' . It is my life..

I was waiting for the boys to come home yesterday avo. 17 yr old was making his way over as an ebay purchase had arrived for him ( he has discovered many cheap USA clothing items that he NEEDS).

Ex pulled up out front with 17 yr old. He comes in..Dad wants to see you. He was subdued..

EX firstly has a go at me as Miss 9 yr old had been riding her bike without her helmet on. Didn't I know that I was supposed to be the responsible adult here?? Ok.. I copped that one on the chin..yes she should have her helmet.

Then down came the hail..Was I aware that he would have 14 yr old son up on assault charges if he touched his big brother again?? 14 yr old son attacked his brother in a headlock on the train and also embarrassed his brother in front of all his friends!!Don't I take son to taekwondo?? What do I do for 17 yr old?? I am a bad mother because I haven't been to any of his footy matches. He left, leaving son here.

I speak to 17 yr old. Little brother was emabarrassing him infront of his friends. then on the train, they sat down and he sat behind them and kept kicking the chair and then he attacked him.

14 yr old makes his way home, walking. I stop him to talk. he is very angry. Ex was abusing him. Big brothers friends were telling him to F-off. Big brother attacked him on train pyhsically too.

I tell him his brother is inside. Well he got up, walked in and poured his can of soft drink over his brothers head and walked out.

I told them both off equally.

Then they start name calling, edging each other on. Miss 9 yr old started crying, I told Nic to take her out of room.

I told them both to get out until they could be civil and that in my house I was not listening to this anymore.

17 yr old left with his stuff. I told him he didn't have to leave, just calm down.

He told me off for not sticking up for him and only for his brother.

I told him I was ticked off with Both of them and they were both at fault.

he left.

About 15 mins later the phone rang, it was EX. 14 yr old got to it before me and told him to F-off and hung up. 9y orld was upset and grabbed the phone and her father was still on line. He wanted me. I told him 17 yr old had left. Well he saw red.. this is my fault.. my responsibility and I am no longer to have access with my son.

after about 40mins, 17 old finally rang his father after lots of msgs left on his phone.

14 yr old son comes to me and says sorry but did I know that big brother at school has his friends come up and ask him why he doesn't like his father when he is a 'legend'. this makes him see red ,s o he told them part there of why his father is not a 'legend' which made 17 yr old see red..

OMG..I can't do this ..I have no answers..I grounded 14 yr old for pouring drink over his brothers head. I told him what happened before that, I couldn't know for sure who started what and I would leave that part out. Now is is angry as big brother is not grouned. I explained he didn't live here and his father would not do this.

Big brother is angry as he feels we ( as a family) only stick up for 14 yr old. He is being blind to the truth. Ex certainly doesn't help there.

I do feel guilty some what with 17 yr old..I don't go to his footy matches..I haven't for a long time..mainly because of EX..not the best reason . I just can't stand listening to him and can't be near him. I physically can't. I also do not like watching my son being hurt all the time. Son knows this. I do try to help and be there in other ways. with schooling functions and little things , like paying for this and that. It s hard ..I would like nothing better than to ring him everyday..this has not happened over the years as Ex restricted this. We do talk, my son and I.

Everytime he comes over , it upsets our balance here. Its very upsetting for me to see and watch the kids like this.

Again its just going to be one of those things that gets dealt with or not each day.